I know, a wild guess here but if you have a wife, a long-term partner, or somebody you’d wish to see in that role – and if you are here, reading the Sissylover Academy‘s blog… Well, from time to time you probably fantasize about being a sissy cuckold;) Fantasies are, of course, good and all, but actually locking your clitty up, talking through all of it with your partner, figuring out the whys and hows, and most importantly coming to terms with it yourself – that’s a bit more knotty, isn’t it?
Well, you’re in luck, sugar, cause right now we will untie all of it, gently and thoughtfully, to help you gather your courage (or rather submissiveness) and open this door (or rather to lock yourself in). Buckle up, hun, today we take a deep dive into all the marvellous things that await you in the realms of being a chastised sissy for your loved one.
You won’t have to always be the strong manly husband/boyfriend/partner
..if you let your significant other have other sexual partners. Sounds counterintuitive? Well, bear with me. At some point, every sissy has felt the pressure to be more masculine, to hide their femininity. Keeping up appearances, acting, “manning up” – isn’t it exhausting? Isn’t it soul-draining? For many sissy girls, it certainly was. For you it probably is.
Many sissies come to the Academy because they find comfort in no longer being forced to conform to aggressive, masculine stereotypes. And for many sissy girls, one of the biggest sources of that pressure to be ‘manly’ is their partner. It’s very common for a sissy to feel ashamed of the fact that they can’t sexually satisfy their significant other, because their clit is too small, or because they’re not the Alpha Male stereotype that women supposedly find so arousing. It’s among the biggest reasons why sissies hide their feminine side – fear of rejection from their partner if they ever came clean.
Cuckolding can remove that fear. If somebody else is taking care of your spouse’s sexual needs, then you don’t have to worry whether or not you’re able to measure up. For years, the choices you have been facing were either to sexually satisfy your partner, perhaps even by hiding your sissy side; or to be in a loveless relationship, where being cheated on, breakup and rejection are always hanging there, menacingly, at the back of your head, spawning fear and uncertainty. Cuckolding provides a third option: to give your wife a way to be sexually satisfied, and for you to be yourself.
Happy Wife, Happy Life
For decades, women have been forced to choose between partners who can keep them sexually satisfied and partners who are dependable, emotionally sensitive, and worthy of a long-term commitment. Sexually bored women have had to hide their longing from their husbands, going in secret to meet with men, even with the risk of getting caught.
Nowadays nothing has to be hidden, and nothing has to be secret. The number of couples who are openly agreeing upon consensual non-monogamy and seeing other people is growing day by day. The shame and the stigma that once surrounded polyamory are shrinking, and acceptance of such a sexual lifestyle is growing. Your wife will be happier if she’s not shackled to you, and if she’s free to pursue sexual relations with other men. And no darling, not necessarily because of you not being good enough.
Sexual adventures, the thrill of new experiences, and new paths in this polygamy world all add up to her being reminded how beautiful and sexy she is, that she is wanted, admired and respected – not only by you, who she already knows thinks the world of her, but also by other men (and maybe women). And it’s so important for a woman to not let these feelings of self-worth fade with time. And your partner will be so grateful to you for letting her ignite them once again.
Do you know who else is free to pursue sex with other men? You! And you, my sweet sissy, will be so much happier as well – if you remove trying and failing to sexually satisfy your partner from the equation… and if from time to time you focus on satisfying those who you actually can satisfy. After all, your tongue and boypussy have much more potential than your clitty.
Channel your sexual energy
So, whilst somebody else is making use of your wife, what happens to you? I think the answer is obvious, isn’t it, sweetie?
Now that your wife is understanding and accepting of your needs, she should have no problem becoming your key-holder, and she’ll soon see the benefits of keeping you in chastity. We could spend a long time here going through all of the positives, but that would be a topic of its own. Let’s focus on the one you might not have thought about before.
Spirituality has always had a strong connection with chastity. People have known for a very long time that focusing your energy on sexual pleasures can get in the way of more important things… and so, a major part of many spiritual paths in many different cultures is being able to re-direct your sexual energy to more useful activities.
A person in chastity begins to build up sexual energy (sometimes referred to as ‘sexual frustration’). As time goes on and you are unable to satisfy your lust, that lust will continue to grow. What happens next is up to you: You might end up begging for your key-holder to release you. Your sexual arousal might relocate itself in your body – it’s common for girls in chastity to experience more sensitivity in their mouth and their rear fuckhole… which is exactly what a sissy like you might be looking for.
Days, weeks, months in chastity will go by and you will need to find useful ways of redirecting the energy that’s been built up. Think about the things you’re passionate about, that you want to spend time on. Think of all the things that may benefit from your extra energy. Your career, hobbies, self-development, living space. Making your partner’s life easier and more pleasurable by helping her out, doing things for her. Housework, beauty, self-care. And, no less important, your sissy training. These are all worth channelling your energy towards, and certainly worth saving up your energy for – especially, if it can be done as simply as by staying in chastity.
Are you a real man?
Let’s address the elephant in the room – the question of whether or not you count as a real man, whatever that is. If you’re sure the answer to that question is yes, then I don’t know what you’re doing here, reading a blog post on SissyLover.com! But let’s say you’re not 100% sure.
The truth is, it doesn’t matter if you’re a real man or not. If you’re still reading this article, there’s no denying that you find the idea comforting in a way. For example, it’s comforting to think that the reason your marriage or relationship is lacking the sexual flame lies in you not being able to satisfy your partner. It’s certainly easier to accept than to face that maybe you just don’t try hard enough. And that maybe you simply don’t want to. These thoughts can spawn so easily, and once they do you can’t just erase them. They can be far away from the truth but still, they stay and they circle around, begging for answers which you don’t possess… Yet.
That’s what cuckolding provides, more than anything – it’s the easy answer you’ve been waiting for. If you embrace your role as a sissy cuckold, then it doesn’t matter why you can’t satisfy your wife. You just can’t. Not in a conventional way at least. Well, how can you, when your clitty is locked up, right? It’s something you can’t fight. It’s another decision made for you. It’s a true acceptance of your submission, and it comes with all the benefits that being a submissive brings you.
To sum up: You could never get your partner to call you “daddy” in bed. But now, she can call you a “good girl” instead. Doesn’t that have a better ring to it?
Dealing with jealousy
A lot of you are probably thinking, “But how would I deal with the feelings of jealousy”? The obvious answer, of course, is that when you’re a sissy cuckold, jealousy is expected from you. A lot of people choose cuckolding because the humiliation and the envy turn them on. But that doesn’t have to be the case.
Jealousy and possessiveness almost always come from a place of fear. Fear that you’re going to lose your partner, fear that you’re going to be left alone, fear that you’re unlikeable, fear that you’re boring… and especially fear that your partner is keeping secrets from you. It’s perfectly normal to feel insecure about yourself when you’re comparing yourself to another man, another lover. So what can you do about it?
Now, if I was being cruel, I could remind you here that as a cuckold, you should just accept that you don’t compare. You’re not as attractive, not as good in bed, and you should just stay in your little chastity cage because in the long run that will make you happier. It’s not even a competition, so why stress about it?
The more honest answer would be that those insecurities are things to talk to your partner about because chances are that cuckolding isn’t what caused them in the first place – it just highlighted your deep-rooted feelings. And if you’re willing to go down the road of playing in this way, making you more jealous, toying with your emotions, then it’s a good idea to make sure you’re in a strong enough starting place.