Think like a girl: 10 girly routines to feminize your mind

Gather up, girls, today we are going to talk about something that lies at the very basis of your transformation into a beautiful, skilled sissy girl. The mind, the self-perception, the glossy pink inner world of yours, which requires no less attention, diligence and development than any other area of your sissification – and in my opinion much more.

The core principle of Sissylover’s approach towards your transformation is fairly simple – it should be comprehensive and all-embracing. We produce sissies who not only look like girls and fuck like girls but who also act and think like girls. You may be proficient in walking in the highest of heels by now, your chastity cage might be locked on permanently, and your holes might be eagerly taking the thickest of dildos, but ridding your brain of any traces of masculine ego is most likely still quite a chore. And vice-versa, the mind is precisely the place where feminisation starts for all beginner sissies. Masculinity can be quite a clingy, deeply rooted mode of consciousness, glued to your self-perception by years of socialization. Thankfully, for girls like you, feminisation bears no less power.

The Academy’s Training covers this subject extensively but if you are hungry for some extracurricular activities, I’ve devised some more mind feminisation routines and practices that serve only one purpose  – to make you think like a girl. No hypnosis, (almost) no mantras or affirmations, only direct action-based training that you can apply in your everyday life. So, shall we?

How do girls feel?

The secret to mind feminisation lies in 3 key dimensions: 

1) understanding girls;

2) associating oneself with girls; 

3) thinking of oneself as a girl. 

Let’s start with the first one. 

Men’s culture, from standup to movies, is stocked with jokes about such an inconceivable concept as “understanding women”. The way we, ladies, perceive ourselves, people and the world around us seems so hard to grasp for men and that’s no surprise. Few of them have ever actually made any effort to immerse themselves in the worries we bear, troubles we face and challenges we overcome on a daily basis. How would they do it, you wonder? Well, listening and empathising not from a position of a superior arbiter but from a place of genuine concern might be a good start but before I go on a rant about my ex I must say that there’s a larger issue at hand.

How many movies/series that you’ve recently watched were about women? How many featured a conversation between women which is not about men? And how many of these were written and directed by women themselves? Indeed, I believe that at the very basis of cultural upbringing, the core subjects and issues brought up for men and women differ drastically, generational socialization adapts to this differentiation accordingly and patriarchy capitalises on all of this. And you, my dear sissy, are a product of this process.

Luckily, no more, as you’re about to dive head-deep into the other side of this cultural differentiation – the women’s world. As I’ve already touched upon, the key to understanding girls is knowing what troubles them, why, and how girls react to these troubles both individually and socially. And there’s no better way to do it than consuming content created for women or by women. Movies and series are a good start, so here’s something you will now add to your watchlist:

Series 

1. Sex And The City
2. Gossip Girl
3. Emily In Paris
4. Euphoria
5. The Sex Lives Of College Girls
6. The Summer I Turned Pretty
7. Orange Is The New Black

Movies

1. As many Disney Princess Movies as you can
2. At least 2 Barbie movies: my recommendations are Barbie and the Swan Lake (2003), and Barbie as the Princess and the Pauper (2004)
3. Barbie (2023)
4. Mean Girls (2004)
5. Legally Blonde (2001)
6. Bridget Jones’s Diary (2001)
7. The Princess Diaries (2001)
8. The Devil Wears Prada (2006)
9. Little Women (2019)
10. Poor Things (2023)

Watch at least one episode or 1 movie per day. Don’t start any other series and don’t watch any other movies until you watch everything from this list. It’s best if you watch all of it in bulk and in succession. Also, if you’ll be watching all this on streaming services, warmly welcome any recommendations the algorithm will throw your way and start building a watchlist library of these recommendations. 

Another important note here is that from now on in any movie or series you watch, even those of your own personal choosing, a female character should be the main character for you, the one whose arc you’ll be following the most attentively. If there’s no female character at all – don’t watch it. Your whole content consumption should be solemnly focused on empathising with women on your screen, getting to know their worries, issues and challenges, feeling for them, knowing them, and associating yourself with them – even if you can’t fully as of yet but we’ll fix that soon.

What do girls say?

From women on screen let’s move to women in real world. How you are going to understand women if you don’t know what shade of lipstick is trending this season, how Sabrina Carpenter is performing in her new tour, how’s Lana Del Rey’s new husband doing, how to style a skirt in a trendy multilayer fashion and how to cope when you suspect that your boyfriend’s cheating on you? Obviously, there are plenty of women who do not find these topics essential to their identity but, you, my dear, are a different case. Your starting position as a sissy girl is lacking even when compared to the most counter-cultural of girls. You need to fill in the gaps and push out your masculinity with a substantial dose of feminity. And that can only be accomplished by connecting with girls not only from an emotional standpoint but also culturally and topically, no matter how stereotypical these cultural and topical points of connection are.

So, as trivial as it is, let’s add some magazines to your reading list, sugar. Go on and sign up for newsletters from:

1. Vogue;

2. Harper’s Bazaar;

3. Vanity Fair;

4. Elle;

5. Cosmopolitan.

With that, you will receive emails with all the necessary news and articles from the world of fashion, beauty, celebrity gossip and lifestyle. Your goal is to read at least 1 article and news compilation per day. Again, your prime focus should be on the topics themselves – what bothers women, what sparks our interest and how do we approach these topics.

A good exercise might be to compare your regular news outlet with the one aimed at women. Pay close attention to differences in tone, language, topics, shapes of opinions. Not to mention, that you must learn as many details about the subjects that are brought up in these newsletters as you can. If you’re seeing an article about a celebrity’s love affair – you should google who that is. If you’re seeing a story about Miu Miu’s new handbag campaign – you should google the brand. Etc. You are aiming to be a girl well-educated in all of the femme world, after all.

And it must be a long-running effort. I don’t need to tell you that if you drop it after a week or two it won’t benefit your feminization. However, if you make a daily habit out of it, if you stick to it for months if you even go as far as purchasing monthly issues of these magazines and reading them in their entirety – I can guarantee that your mind will shape itself into a more feminine frame.

Secondly, let’s talk about what you’re listening to. I’m not going to attack your taste in music, you can keep that essential character trait intact, besides, it’s much harder to distinguish gender based on musical preferences. That being said, you must be at least aware of the music stereotypically girls are listening to. Let’s approach it as a research. I will now list artists and you must listen to at least 3 albums from these artists per week.  

1. Taylor Swift
2. Lana Del Rey
3. Ariana Grande
4. Sabrina Carpenter
5. Olivia Rodrigo 
6. Charlie XCX
7. Chappell Roan
8. Dua Lipa
9. Halsey
10. Girl In Red

Now, create a playlist in your preferred streaming service and title it “Girlie Girl”. You must add at least 2 songs from every album to this playlist. Once you’ve listened through the whole of the discography above and added all of the songs algorithms will do the work by finding you new similar songs, and this playlist will serve as a soundtrack for your budding girlhood.

There are also podcasts. It’s essential for you to hear how women communicate in a realistic safe genuine environment that resembles a girls’ bathroom. In fact, that’s the title of the first podcast you should add to your library – The Girls Bathroom. Also, add Giggly Squad and Normal Gossip. You must listen to at least 3 episodes from any of these podcasts per week. Pay close attention to what the girls are discussing, how they approach the topics, and how they talk and express themselves vocally. Try to empathize and connect.

How do girls connect?

The routines above will undoubtedly help you understand all the intricacies of a girl’s inner world. Now, let’s talk about the next step of mind feminization – associating with girls.

As a matter of fact, if you complete the routines diligently you will unwittingly start doing just that. That’s why it’s so important to pay closer attention to female characters, for example. But even when hearing a girl discuss her cheating boyfriend on a podcast you will learn to take her side and therefore truly listen to what she says, understand why she says the things she says, why she says them in the way she does. That’s the power of any audio-visual media – it kindles and fuels empathy, and when you empathise your ego adjusts to the unevenness of a personality you connect with, it loses its own shape, it gets vulnerable, and that’s exactly the right moment to seal this connection by way of association. 

How do we do that? The answer lies in the very etymology of the word. We must include you in the girls’ social circle, you must be one of many, with your girly place secured by a range of social connections. The easiest way to do this in our digital world is by immersing you in girls’ social bubbles on social media.

1. Create new accounts for YouTube and Instagram. When registering select “female” as your gender. That’s crucial because it impacts the algorithms.
2. On YouTube, find the 5 magazines from above and subscribe to their channels. Watch at least one video from each of these 5 channels (it’s important that you watch these 5 videos in full):
   • 1 make-up tutorial;
   • 1 get ready with me for a fashion show;
   • 1 female celebrity interview;
   • 1 a look back from a celebrity at outfits/runaway moments;
   • and 1 of your choosing (obviously, centred around a woman).
3. Then search for “smokey eyes makeup tutorial” and watch 2 videos that catch your attention from the ones that come up. Subscribe to the channels.
4. Do the same for “fashion lookbook 2024” and “what’s in my bag” searches.
5. Now subscribe to these 2 channels: Jordan Theresa and Mina Le.

Pretty complicated but all that is necessary for you to create the girliest most all-rounded “for you” page which from now on you’ll be regularly browsing. Spend at least 20 minutes per day doing just that – clicking on any videos in your recommendations and watching them in full. When you watch a video from a new channel after it appears in your recs feed – subscribe to the channel. You must do this every day, that’s why I set the time to such a low threshold. It’s consistency here that is of the most importance. This YouTube account now becomes one of your safe girly places, that has absolutely nothing that will trigger your male ego into action, where every video, every preview, every shorts is aimed at one thing – helping you become the most feminine sissy you can be.

Let’s do the same thing with Instagram. First, start off by subscribing to every popstar you should be listening to from the list above. Follow the 5 magazines as well. Here it will be more complicated cause the Reels’ algorithms are much more sensitive and you will have to apply lots of self-control and ingenuity to tailor them to your girly needs. But if you spend at least 15 minutes per day watching Reels recommended for you based on your initial follows, if you remember that Instagram mostly values time spent watching a reel rather than a like, and if you apply this knowledge to add more makeup tutorials, more aesthetics, fashion and lookbook type videos to your feed – your Instagram will become your second safe place for your feminine fun.

After you keep up with these routines for long enough you will start noticing your growing sense of inclusion. You will not only understand the girls around you better but you will feel the very association we’re seeking which will mostly manifest in you getting closer to thinking of yourself as being a part of the group, part of the social bubble, part of the community which in return will inevitably lead to you perceiving yourself as a girl.

How do girls behave?

And here comes the final part of our guide that focuses precisely on that – thinking of yourself as a girl. All the knowledge and the emotional spectrum you will gain through the activities listed above will need to be applied. Obviously, you will start getting along with women in your life much better but the application I’m talking about needs to be foremost internal.

To think of yourself as a girl you must do what other girls do the way other girls do it. However, it’s not the activities that matter here, it’s your mindset while partaking in them. For example, let’s take something that should be a part of every sissy girl’s daily routine – keeping your body shaved. Why are you doing it? Because your Trainers told you to? Because all the girls do it? These are all good reasons but for our mind feminization to work they are not enough.

The right answer here which you must be telling yourself is – at first you’re doing it because shiny smooth legs look sexy and if you wear a skirt today hairy legs will look gross. Several shaves down the line, you’re doing it because you like the way your legs look when they are hairless and you don’t want to see your legs hairy anymore. After a while, it becomes a habit and you’re doing it because you simply must do it today – the way you must brush your teeth in the morning. Such habits, of which there are numerous, are the apogee of girly mindset, your daily behaviour is constructed around them and their application in your mind cements your place in the world as a girl. So, when I say that such seemingly trivial things as grooming and self-care are vital to your mind’s feminisation, you should take these words with utmost seriousness. Therefore, let’s pick several that from now on must be a part of your daily life.

Skincare. A cleansing foam, a toner, a moisturiser, a serum – that’s the bare minimum of what you should apply every night and every morning to your face and sunscreen everyday before you go outside. When doing so, you should remember all of the girls you saw or heard from your content consumption endeavours and say to yourself “I’m doing it because I want to be as pretty as them”. Yes, comparisons and unrealistic beauty standards are a plague for women but for you, love, they are actually beneficial, especially at the start. Besides, you’ll have one more common experience or rather mental trouble to share with other girls.

Shaving. No need to tell you much here, you already know your body must remain smooth. Again, because it’s a must for a girl like you. 

Grooming your eyebrows. You must always be aware of the shape of your eyebrows. No one tells you to tweeze them into high feminine arches, but buying some eyebrow blades and shaping the sides and the corners will not do much damage to your masculine-presenting face if that’s necessary for you in your daily life.

These are 3 very simple habits, in fact, they are so simple to follow I’m thinking I’m being too easy on you here, but still, if they become consistent unmissable parts of your daily life they will significantly add to your self-perception as a girl. Not to mention, that they will boost your looks, darling.

As a bonus here, I’ll give you two more things you must incorporate in your life to get into a more feminine mind frame.

1. First of all, fragrance. Buy a women’s perfume. It must always be on your shelf. And it must be the one you really really like. The one that suits you. For that, you will have to visit the store – you can tell you’re picking it for your partner. Right now, fragrances can be very neutral, so you can select one from the women’s section that you would wear on a daily basis. But if it’s too feminine, you’ll still find a use for it. When you are at home, you should always wear this perfume. All your home clothes should be covered in this fragrance. Especially, when you’re doing all the girlie routines I write about in this article. I also suggest you use it on your sleeping pillow to further instil femininity in your life.
2. And secondly, when you work out, preferably at home on a yoga mat, you must be wearing leggings and a sports bra. This will help you to apply the correct mindset for your training – which should be focused on staying healthy, of course, but also on wanting to have the slim waist, the hourglass figure and the plump butt that all the girls you’ve seen in the movies and on Instagram have. “I want to be as pretty as them”, remember?

In the end, mental feminisation, if we’re not talking about hypnosis or reprogramming, is a constant individual effort. Just like any aspect of your sissy training, it requires discipline, diligence and consistency. What differs, however, is the way you notice the results. It won’t be instant and for the most part, it won’t be visible or tangible.

Instead, one day after months of keeping up with the routines I’ve listed, in the morning you will walk up to the mirror to do your skincare and you will catch yourself thinking about that one reel you saw yesterday where a girl showcased her dress and you’ll be sure that you would have styled it better. Or better yet, at a party, you’ll hear a girl saying how hard it is to find a decent man on a dating app and you will genuinely say to yourself “Giirl, I get you”. Or maybe one day you’ll be watching a blockbuster movie and you’ll get really bored cause it doesn’t hit the same spots your new movie collection does. Or maybe when you get together with your male friends you’ll find yourself a bit out of place, reluctant to joke around as you previously did, wishing you were spending time with your girlfriends instead.

It will be a sudden realisation, an epiphany of sorts as if you notice you’ve climbed a mountain only when you reach the highest peak when all of the 3 steps are completed and you find yourself thinking not only like a girl but as if you are a girl for real. That’s when you’ll realise how easily your sissification progresses now, how effortlessly you reach new heights in your training and how much more there is to explore in your self-perception. Believe me, as I’ve seen it so many times, it’s an experience far more rewarding than a sissygasm. So work for it, girl!

Let’s have an exercise in girly mindset, meanwhile. Tell me, if you were a girl for a week

1) how would you spend your night out?;

2) where would you go shopping and what for?;

3) what would be your favourite activity?

Share your fantasies in the comments below!

And if you’re not a Sissylover Academy student yet, you should definitely apply for the free Training – it will add discipline and consistency to your routines, while even more exciting sissy materials, practices and deep mind-altering feminization will boost your sissification to a whole other lever.