STUDENT DOUBTS
In short, we all have doubts. Take it slowly, learn to understand yourself and avoid throwing things away in the heat of the moment.
Yes, it is! It is okay for you to play out fantasies in your head, and you are allowed to explore any fantasies that are interesting to you (in a safe and consensual manner). We all do it!
The sissification and feminization fantasies often stem from wanting to explore your submissive side, wanting to feel aroused by light humiliation, or the self-image-as-a-feminine is an attractive fantasy on its own. All of these are normal triggers that are fun to play with.
It will only consume as much time and energy as you give it.
You, as an Academy student, can…
choose a training course with a fitting length for you
are allowed to take breaks while the course is in progress
are allowed to limit the amount of content and tasks you consume
You should be able to live your life without this Academy taking over your life. We want you to be healthy, nourish your relationships/friendships, and thrive with your hobbies and career. It is not about letting everything else go!
This is actually a very common feeling, especially if you are new to all this and/or define yourself as a man in your everyday life. It could make you question your desires, identity, and sexuality. To be completely honest, it might be something that takes quite a bit of time for you to understand, accept, and come to terms with.
There are different ways to approach this feeling:
This is simply a fantasy for me. You will draw the line in the sand and accept it simply as a fantasy and nothing more. All of us have fantasies that we would like to keep in our heads as sweet dreams rather than dreams that come true one day. It is okay to keep it like that; it does not have to define you, just being something that is exciting to fantasize about.
I accept my feminine and sissy side. You can also simply embrace it as a part of you. And it will not make you less of a man, nor will it be a defining element of you (unless you want it to be, ofc). This is simply letting go of the doubts, making peace with yourself, not caring about others’ perception, and staying true to yourself.
I don’t want to be associated with it anymore. Which is an acceptable choice if that’s something you want to do. However, the fantasy will most likely appear again after some time, and the same kinds of feelings about the fantasy will arise with it. You can either find peace with it now or deal with it later on again.
No one has to know about it. There is no required or forced exposure in the Academy, so you can keep this as private as you like.
Think of it like this: when you go outside and look at people, how you’d feel if you found out they were a sissy, submissive, bondage slut, or loved getting paddled. I guess you wouldn’t judge them. Because you don’t really know them, and..it does not matter to you what strangers do with their free time. I am sure most of them would think the same about you.
If you frame it like this, then you should take a closer look at your habits around sissy porn and masturbation. Are you here just for a quick jerk-off, or are you mindfully exploring your sexual side in order to learn something?
If your sissy content and porn consumption are overtaking your mind, you can’t cut back on it, and it is keeping you from doing the things you want to do in your daily life, then you might have porn addiction.
Are you wondering it because “usually women are seen as the submissive role”? That is an outdated way of thinking. We live in a world where women feel more comfortable than ever taking control and finding their way in more dominant roles. I would love to think that we live in a world where each of us can find and choose our own roles and be accepted for our decisions.
I find it sexy when people have accepted themselves and are not afraid to voice it to others. There is just as much power behind “I like taking control!” as “I like to give up control!” Both of them require the same amount of confidence.
Known fact: People who work in high-level leadership positions that require dominant traits to succeed in their career often like to give up control in the bedroom and take on the submissive role with their partner.
If your specific doubt isn’t on the list, don’t be shy! Write to us and let’s figure it out together, or post in our Academy’s subreddit.
Also if you have already solved your doubts/issues, we want to hear how. Maybe it can be useful addition to the list.
Already figured it out?
We want to hear all about your “Aha!” moments. If you’ve solved a problem or found a better way to do things, tell us! Your tips might be the perfect little addition to help the rest of the students.
